December 16, 2005
Rules of the Road and Train
Allow me to ask a question: of those of you who take public transport on a daily basis, particularly in Hong Kong, how many of you get up for elderly people?
I do, and do think that more people in this city should. But before you think that this is going to be a moralistic post, I must confess that there is a caveat: I won't get up for older people that dye their hair (unless they're on crutches or look like they're going to fall over).
I know it seems a bit crass, but basically I don't for two reasons: 1) they clearly want to be young, and to be regarded as young. Why offend them by offering them a seat? 2) By trying to hide their age, and pass themselves off for something they are no longer, I figure they lose their natural entitlement to my seat.
Am I a hard-hearted jerk? Or acting sensibly and fairly?posted by HK Dave on 12.16.05 at 03:03 PM in the Hong Kong people category.
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I think you're doing just fine. It's the same way with many old women here in Japan (for some reason the old men are much calmer, more relaxed, and don't cause troubles for anyone). I had a women almost kill herself rushing to get in front of me in line at the super market (http://www.imbermedia.net/users/darintenb/blog/?postid=8 Japanese only), but I can guarantee you she is the same person that gives you the stare on the train/bus.
I do not have this problem as I am normally fooled by their cunning disguise into thinking that they are in the full flower of youth and probably younger than me. My big dilemma comes when trying to assess whether someone is 3 months' pregnant or just generously built.posted by: phizackerly on 12.16.05 at 05:35 PM [permalink]
The question is do the dye-haired elderly get up for you, Dave?posted by: Simon on 12.16.05 at 08:37 PM [permalink]
phizackerly: In Japan, being overweight seems to be enough of a social disability to warrant being given the priority seat, so either way I think you're safe ;)posted by: Darin ten Bruggencate on 12.16.05 at 10:30 PM [permalink]
I hadn't thought of that before now, Dave, but now that you mention it I think you're right. If they don't want to be viewed and treated as elderly, I can't see anything wrong with obliging them (though perhaps not in a way they'd like). I ride the bus to and from college every day, and I normally do move for the elderly. But if I ever find myself in that position with an obvious hair-dyer, I'm going to pull a Dave.posted by: Matt McIntosh on 12.16.05 at 10:42 PM [permalink]
I do not believe in giving fatties seats. They need the standing-up exercise.
To answer these questions, first off Simon they have never gotten up for me, even when I was in a cast. But I don't really hold that against them, or certainly less than other able-bodied people that pretend they don't see me, or perhaps are simple so inured to not getting up that they weren't aware of me.
I will give up my seat for 6-month pregnant ladies, but yes, it is sometimes difficult to tell with pregnancies that are not yet so pronounced.
I actually had a chance to prove my strategy yesterday when a dyed-hair old lady stumbled onto the KCR last night as I was making my way back from Lo Wu. I was panicking, as she was clearly tottering. Providentially, though, the person next to me leapt up and off the train (having almost forgotten her stop) and the old lady was able to sit down next to me.:)posted by: HK Dave on 12.18.05 at 09:01 AM [permalink]